Wounded (Toxic) Masculinity vs Racism
The Wounded Masculine & Racism One significant part of my own healing journey is finding my voice or unlocking a blocked throat chakra, depending on the energy perspective you wish to use. Speaking up and out has always been extremely challenging for me. There’s a wounding in my masculine energy that needs my compassionate attention. (Work-in-progress sign goes here.) It is this awareness that has brought me to the topic above. How does a wounded masculine energy transmute into racism? Nelson Mandela said, “No human is born with hate”. It is taught (adopted as a survival mechanism).
Racism is not curable, as it’s not a disease. Saying, “stop racism” isn’t helpful much either. It’s not as simple as flicking a switch. We connect to it from a state of fear, lack of personal understanding and projection. ...Usually stemming from a wounded masculine energy. I feel that when we start seeing it as the “pain and fear” of a wounded inner child, we can better approach it with energy of compassion and understanding. We all know that we cannot solve a problem with the same energy (emotions) that created the problem. We will always find ourselves at a standstill as long as we’re operating from lower vibrations such as hate, feelings of superiority and power games.
My message is not a form of exoneration but rather a hope that we can shift from our own fear and see another’s fear with the same love and compassion that we would like having extended to ourselves, should we discover we are hurt too. I believe we can dissolve racism in the wounded masculine by reflecting on our own wounds. What “hurt” you when you were growing up? What “fear” are you nurturing?
I have had my fair share of racism projected at me. Quite recently too. Sure there is an innate initial feeling of ‘judgement, anger, isolation, victimization’ but when I started seeing these individuals, some managers and directors, as men with ‘wounded masculine’ personas, I immediately prevented myself from carrying the emotions of anger, rage or revenge. I immediately became aware of my own wounds. And with awareness comes the possibility for change.
Men need love, protecting and nurturing too. We only want to feel safe so that we can show our emotions and vulnerabilities without being judged and made to feel “less” manly.
How do you feel we can better address the “wounded masculine” the world judges so much?